Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.
My sole priority isn't to be their new "daddy" so much as to be their as a positive and loving support source for them.
You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.
A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.
They make policy together and speak with one voice, individually resisting any given child’s attempts to manipulate or to play one parent off the other to gain advantage.
They also keep confidences for one another and do not share private adult business with children.