This will give you both time to get to know each other and to figure out if you’d like to be in a relationship together.It will also give you time to get more comfortable to talk to him about it. I know that starting this conversation with a dude can be awkward, uncomfortable and completely nerve-wracking. I’ve done it a million times and let me just tell you guys something: I am really shy.
I dread those in-betweener's (like 'drinks' and 'coffee') because they're not really dates to me."Josh, 28, agrees. Not all guys see dates the same way, which makes it more and more confusing to both parties involved.
Before I got off of the phone with him I said, “Hold on. ” He explained, “Well, right now I’m dating this lady, but she’s only separated from her husband, so I want to see where it goes. His use of ambiguity put my heart in a vulnerable spot. Vague dates are an epidemic, but they can be stopped by honesty and clear boundaries.
Maybe once that is done we could date, but for the sake of definition, yes, I guess we better call ourselves ‘just friends,’ though I know there’s undeniably chemistry between us. Here are a few tips to help you navigate the spaces between dates and “hangouts.” Be intentional: Be present in the moment and try not to project too far into the future. Take into account that you are worth taking the time to get to know, and so is he.
Didn’t we just share about philosophy of relationships, creative projects, spirituality, and a thousand other fun details about the deeper sides of our lives?
I hadn’t manufactured it, “the spark” was alive and well all night.