When I was finishing my fifth year of studies as clinical psychology doctoral student, I fell in love with a second-year medical resident; a wanderer at heart with the softest smile and a way of listening that made me feel like the whole world stopped when I spoke.Whenever possible, we found ourselves in the forest exploring the world on foot or, if the weather was bad, on long drives that led to nowhere. Learn to hide your “ew, gross” reactions when they tell you all the stuff you never wanted to know about your bodily functions. Support them when they come home after each test, upset because they failed—and gently remind them after they get their well above passing grade how unnecessary the “I’m going to fail out of medical school and never become an MD” dramatics are. Date them for long enough, and you’ll become one too. There will be weeks you'll forget you even have a boyfriend—friends will ask how he is and you'll say, “What? And when you witness others perform these same acts that, before you began dating your med student, you spent your entire life doing too, you'll wince and wonder, “Ew! Don't they know how many germs and bacteria they're spreading??! Romantic date = Chinese take-out in front of the TV on their 10 minute study break. A vacation together consists of a trip down the street to Walgreens for new highlighters and printer paper. Their study habits will make you feel like a complete slacker. The name of the 8 billion-lettered, German sounding cell that lives in the depths of your inner ear, the technical term for the “no one's ever heard of this disease” disease that exists only on one foot of the Southern tip of the African continent. Some will be extremely rare, others will be more mundane. They will be certain they have it (no second opinions necessary.) Med school can, and will, turn even the sanest into a hypochondriac. Believe me, it's going to get bad...you'll watch yourself transform into the anal retentive person you swore you'd never become.With that degree of debt, there is little room for flexibility should one’s future plans change. For instance, what if this female student, who now says she intends to continue working full-time while raising a family, changes her mind later?Or something unforeseen happens, like having twins or triplets?
She enjoys finding the humor inherent in the life of a medical student and the process of becoming a physician.
Probably not; relationships don’t automatically get a death sentence the minute you start medical school.
The relationship will definitely be put through the wringer, however.
These often unspoken issues place significant strain on relationships.
And it gets uglier should divorce enter the picture: …